It’s only too easy on December 31st to set yourself unrealistic goals for the year ahead – “bad” habits that you want to give up or maybe life changes that are just too hard to achieve all at once. When you break these resolutions, which most of us will have done by now, there is a real sense of failure! So instead of beating yourself up appreciate yourself for how you are right now. Read our three top tips on how to be free from broken goals and resolutions, and how to fix them.
Harsh Exercise and Diet Goals Be kinder to yourself and instead of worrying about the parts of yourself that you don’t like. Experiment with clothes to find which styles make you feel good instead of trying to change your own uniqueness. Instead of being negative about your general appearance, think about which parts you really like about yourself and work to highlight that.
Get Organised If you always seem to be running late and in a muddle then you probably resolved to sort yourself out in 2017! You also probably set yourself goals that involved doing it all at once, and have now lapsed back into your usual chaos! The answer is to do it in stages, with one new aim each week. On week one lay out your clothes for the next day before you go to bed and maybe wash your hair instead of leaving it until the morning, and leaving the house with damp hair! Another good tip to get ahead is to pack up your lunch and so avoid the morning scramble or buying expensive sandwiches when you don’t have time. Maybe get up a bit earlier- obvious but instead of relying on your phone to wake you buy an old-fashioned repeat alarm clock! It will nag you to get up just like your mum used to! Empty out your handbag and de-junk it, to avoid that last minute search for keys, and only keep things you actually use in there. In time, all these muddle -tips will become a way of life, leaving you with a few minutes to reflect on the day ahead.
Appreciate What You Already Have OK, so we all dream about expensive holidays, designer clothes and a celebrity life-style, but all of these things come at a cost. Instead think about what you have now and how you could make it better. Is it really worth splashing out on an expensive two weeks in the sun to then have to deprive yourself of treats for the other fifty? Better surely to have several small inexpensive special days out to look forward to, spread across the year.
If you learn to be kinder to yourself and are realistic about how you can improve your life in small ways this could be the last year that you need to make any new year’s resolutions.